Sexual Assault

The Virginia Sky Is Falling

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At this point, a live look at Virginia politics would just be the vacuuming fire GIF.

Governor Ralph Northam dressed in blackface at least once. Should he resign, his successor would be Lieutenant Governor Justin Fairfax. Except he’s being accused of sexual assault. If we take out those two bags of trash, we are left with State Attorney General Mark Herring. Who apparently also appeared in blackface. We at DGB can’t even. We are all out of evens.

Your DGB for today is to tell all three guys they have to go.

See Monday’s Grab for Northam’s contact information.

Justin Fairfax’s is here.

And Mark Herring can be contacted here.

No Hearings, No Vote

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Your DGB for today is to tell your senators we need a full FBI investigation of Brett Kavanaugh before any hearings take place.

As of the writing of this Grab, a third accuser has gone public with various appalling claims against the SCOTUS nominee. The time for negotiations, political posturing, and victim-blaming is over. We need a full investigation into Kavanaugh’s history or he needs to withdraw his name immediately, as all ten Democrats on the Senate Judiciary Committee insisted in a letter to Trump today.

Use Resistbot to contact your senators, ESPECIALLY if you live in Alaska, Arizona, Maine, or Tennessee, and tell them this process needs to come to a screeching halt.

Read, Learn, Get Inspired about Consent

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It feels like it’s been a long time since we didn’t have some horrific story of sexual assault, rape, or harassment in the news. At the time of this writing, Brett Kavanaugh is up to four credible accusers and Bill Cosby was sentenced to three to ten years for drugging and raping dozens of women. Are you fed up yet? Do you want things to change? Your DGB for today is to check out the 11th Principle: Consent! organization. Their website is a treasure trove of information, printables, and resources to educate and support an army of people ready to eradicate Rape Culture.

Start here and learn about the group’s vision and history: https://www.11thprincipleconsent.org/vision-history/

Dig into their Incident Response Toolkit and be prepared: https://www.11thprincipleconsent.org/resources/incident-response-toolkit/

Find some propoganda to download or crowdfund: https://www.11thprincipleconsent.org/consent-propaganda/

Grab some consent - it’s better than actual grabbing.

Security for Christine Blasey Ford

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Your DGB for today is to donate a few bucks to help Brett Kavanaugh’s accuser, Christine Blasey Ford, pay for private security. That’s right - Kavanaugh’s wife is passing out cupcakes to the press camped outside their home, while Dr. Ford and her family have had to go into hiding and hire bodyguards due to doxxing and death threats. Gee, we can’t imagine why more women don’t come forward. We make it so gosh-darned appealing to do so!

Anyway, private security is expensive and we don’t think Ford should have to pay a penny of it herself. So funnel your white-hot rage about how far we haven’t come since the Clarence Thomas confirmation hearings into action and donate. If the patriarchy won’t protect her, we’ll just have to do it ourselves. As usual.

End the Backlog

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Your DGB for today is to help end the backlog of untested rape kits in the US.

There are hundreds of thousand of rape kits, sitting in evidence rooms across the country, just waiting to be tested. And why haven’t they been? Money. Apparently catching rapists just isn’t worth the cost, but there’s something you personally can do.

We did a grab exactly one year ago about ending the backlog, https://www.dailygrabback.com/todays-grab-1/2017/6/12/enough?rq=End%20the%20backlog, and we are happy to announce that Texas did pass the bill to allow crowdfunding of testing for rape kits. In its first month, an initiative that allowed you to donate $1.00 or more fund the processing of rape kits when you applied for your Texas Drivers License, earned $25,000 towards its cause. https://www.dallasnews.com/news/crime/2018/01/25/texas-drivers-donated-25k-month-alone-help-clear-rape-kit-testing-backlog Imagine if other states followed suit.

Here’s what you can do to make that happen, you can check out http://www.endthebacklog.org and find out what’s happening in your state. They have sections for you to contact your representative, get involved and to donate.

Ending this backlog will catch criminals. It will bring closure to hundreds of thousands of women. And, most importantly, it lets victims and potential victims know that this crime does matter, that what happened to them is wrong, and that we’re going to do everything in our power to catch and stop who did this. Ending rape culture can start with one simple little step of showing that we will find and catch rapists, and punish them to the fullest extent of the law.

In the words of our hero, Olivia Benson, “Healing begins when someone bears witness. I saw you. I believe you.”

 

Believe These Women

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Your DGB for today is to share this list of women who have come forward with allegations of sexual assault against Donald Trump.

Today is International Women’s Day and we think it’s the perfect time to amplify the voices of these 21 (and counting) women, listed chronologically by year of assault.

 

1980s: Jessica Leeds

1989: Ivana Trump

1990s: Kristin Anderson

1993: Jill Harth

1994: “Jane Doe”

1996: Lisa Boyne

1997: Mariah Billado

         Cathy Heller

         Temple Taggart McDowell

1998: Karena Virginia

2000: Bridget Sullivan

2001: Tasha Dixon

2003: Mindy McGillivray

2005: Rachel Crooks

         Jennifer Murphy

         Natasha Stoynoff

2006: Jessica Drake

         Samantha Holvey

         Ninni Laaksonen

2007: Summer Zervos

Around 2013: Cassandra Searles

 

Keep in mind that studies indicate fewer than 10% of reported cases of sexual violence are false allegations. This is a decades-long case worthy of Olivia Benson and, more importantly and in real life, Congress.

 

Time’s Up, Assholes

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Your DGB for today is to support the Time’s Up organization and its mission to help women in all sectors of society fight back against sexual assault, sexual harassment, the people who perpetrate it, and the people who enable it.

Unless the bomb cyclone took out your cable this weekend, you probably saw the parade of amazing women wearing black at the Golden Globes to bring attention to the ubiquitous problem of sexual harassment in the workplace, and rape culture at large. But more importantly than looking fierce on the red carpet, these women are using their relative privilege and wealth to help folks who have significantly fewer resources than your average celebrity: food service workers, farm workers, office drones, and everyone in between. They have started a legal defense fund that will “provide subsidized legal support to women and men who have experienced sexual harassment, assault, or abuse in the workplace and while in pursuit of their careers.” Successful women turning around and giving a hand up to others is the kind of thing that gives staffers at DGB the warm-fuzzies.

If you can afford to donate a few dollars to the fund, please do. If not, see how you can amplify the voices of activists and survivors via the #metoo and #timesup hashtags on social media. As Oprah said, “A new day is on the horizon, and when that new day finally dawns, it will be because of a lot of magnificent women and some pretty phenomenal men fighting hard to make sure they become the leaders that take us to the time when nobody ever has to say, ‘me, too’ again.”

And please, if you or someone you know needs it, here is the number for RAINN’s national sexual assault hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE

 

Trump has GOT to Go

Your DGB for today is to call your congress member and ask them to start an investigation into the allegations that Trump sexually assaulted multiple women.

As Alabama decides today whether or not it will elect a child sexual predator to the senate, women across this country are left wondering why we have a sexual predator sitting in the White House. We are tired and outraged. We are sick of seeing him there and being reminded of the injustices of #MeToo every day, so we are joining three of his accusers and asking, no… demanding, members of congress investigate these allegations of sexual abuse and harassment.

You shouldn’t be new to this, but you can find contact info for your senators here:

https://www.senate.gov/reference/common/faq/How_to_correspond_senators.htm

and for your representatives here:

https://www.house.gov/representatives

Let them know that we will not stand for a sexual predator in the Oval Office and ask what they are going to do about it. Next, you can ask them if they will support Senator Cory Booker in his call for Trump to resign from the presidency. Booker said, “I just watched Al Franken do the honorable thing and resign. My question is — why isn’t Donald Trump doing the same thing? Who has more serious allegations against him, with more women who have come forward?”

 

#MeToo Bill

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Your DGB for today is to contact your Senators and Representatives and tell them to vote yes on the #MeToo Bill.

The #MeToo movement has swept the United States and has touched everywhere from Hollywood to corporate America, conversations at the dinner table to Capitol Hill. What makes the sexual harassment especially horrific in DC is their reporting policy, which sounds a lot like an attempt to shut down all conversations and dissuade reporting. You can find out more about the policy here: http://thehill.com/homenews/sunday-talk-shows/361845-speier-congressional-reporting-system-for-sexual-harassment-set-up

Two female Democratic lawmakers have plans to change all that and have authored the ME TOO Congress Act. Representative Jackie Speier of California and Senator Kirsten Gillibrand of New York want to require mandatory sexual harassment training and to reform the current way of reporting to make it easier for the victims and less protective of the accused.

Today, you’ll use Resistbot to demand more from our lawmakers. It’s time these perpetrators pay for their actions. #MeToo

 

#metoo

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Your DGB for today is to give credit where it’s due.

Last week, a social media movement occurred. Thousands of sexual assault survivors were inspired to share stories or comments about their experiences under the hashtag, metoo. Several news outlets originally pinpointed actor Alyssa Milano as the originator. However, it was later revealed that a woman name Tarana Burke started a very similar MeToo movement back in 2007 and has also built a social justice organization that works to build up the health and wellbeing of girls of color called Just Be Inc.

Please go to the website here and learn more about Burke’s story and Just Be Inc.’s MeToo program. http://justbeinc.wixsite.com/justbeinc/the-me-too-movement-cmml 

If you were moved to #metoo, please follow up with a Tweet or status about Just Be Inc. and Tarana Burke so we can be sure that her work is known.

And donations are always great, too. Here’s where you can help Just Be Inc. with a monetary kindness: http://justbeinc.wixsite.com/justbeinc/donate

Grab back and credit the #metoo!

 

It’s On Us

Your DGB for today is to check out It’s On Us and take the pledge to help end sexual assault and the rape culture that fosters it.

ItsOnUs.org is a campus-focused campaign that teaches students how to combat rape culture on college campuses and beyond. The organization tackles both individual and institutional factors that lead to rape culture. It strives to empower students to call out bad behavior, insist on consent, intervene if they see an assault in progress, and to hold their schools accountable for policies that contribute to the problem. 

We are asking you to take the pledge, but you can also donate, buy a t-shirt to wear your support, sign up for their newsletter, and even ask them to come to your local college campus. The MAGA crowd likes to make fun of the term, but the truth is that we all deserve safe spaces to live, work, and learn. Sign on to help make that happen.  

 

JDoe

Your DGB for today is to watch a short two minute video and learn how to utilize the JDoe website.

JDoe is an anonymous sexual assault reporting website. It also offers things like community intelligence, facts about sexual assault, and resources for sexual assault victims. Watch this video about what JDoe does and why it’s so important.

A few of facts about sexual assault are that one in five women and children will be a victim of sexual assault. Although most victims feel like they are alone, they aren’t. 90% of sexual offenders are repeat offenders. (Our president even implied that he grabbed more than one woman.) You can report your own sexual assault on JDoe or one you witnessed, and it’s all anonymous, if you want it to be. Having resources like anonymous reporting and legal help in place makes victims 300% more likely to report a sexual assault. Check out their website, as well as their blog, to learn more: http://jdoe.io/. They will have an app coming out soon and you can sign up on their website to get a notification of when it’s released, thus making reporting sexual assaults even easier. Together we can combat sexual assault and reduce the likelihood of it happening to those we love.